7 ways to be happy everyday

7 ways to be happySomething was wrong when I started feeling unexcited about life. There was no tears as such, I just wasn’t happy or very motivated. I knew something needed to change, this was not who I was… I was the happy go lucky girl that was over excited and over energetic about everything. So what had happened?

Social pressure, body image issues and hormones probably all played their part. Also, I expected things to come immediately and be instantly gratified, so when they didn’t come I was unhappy.

Even when they did come, like my amazing trip to Europe with a close friend, it wasn’t as good as expected… feelings and thoughts of being ungrateful would stir up in my head. How could I feel like this when so many other people had it so much worse? It was a vicious cycle.

So, how did I get out of this?

1. Move…

I got up every morning and went for a walk. I stuck my headphones in and matched the beat from the music to my steps on the pavement. I was suddenly so sensitive to the cool breeze on my face and they way my body moved. This started my day out right. Positive psychology says doing things that strengthen your body and mind everyday is a way to improve happiness.

2. Love…

I put love into everything I do. This was a tough one… I was making coffee daily at the time and as much as I love drinking coffee, making coffee for 8 hours straight kinda sucked. But I started putting love into every coffee I made, instantly I started loving making coffee again. I imagined that the people drinking my coffees would feel the love I put into it and this would make their day better. I can’t guarantee this is what they felt, but it sure made me feel good.

3. Gratitude…

Every morning, on my walk, I think of 5 things I am grateful for. They start off broad, like breathing or the sun shining, but then I get creative with it. My little test or game I like to play is coming up with something I haven’t thought of before. Sometimes it takes all day, but I have never not thought of 1 new thing.

4. Confidence…

‘Fake it till you make it’ has got to be one of my favourite quotes ever! I used it when I stated teaching… shhh. This was because I didn’t feel confident, not because I couldn’t do it. I went to uni for 4 years, studying hard on all the theories of teachings, then bam! I was out of the lecture theatre and teaching children. Be confident, but if you can’t, pretend that you are and eventually the pretending will disappear and you will just be confident.

5. Meditation…

This is something that is new to me. I know this seems like a fad and everybody’s doing it at the moment, but that is because it works! At first I could only sit for 5 minutes at a time. I would download random guided meditations from YouTube. As I practiced more, I got better. I do it at least 3 times a week and it helps clear all the crazy thoughts that are running through my head. It helps clear space in my head and helps me control my thoughts, so I can then learn to think only positive thoughts. Meditation helps you control your thoughts.

6. Visualisation…

I started visualising what I wanted my life to look like. It turned out I only wanted the simple things in life. So what I didn’t have, I pretended I had (fake it ’till you make it, right…). Of course I didn’t pretend I had lots of money and go and spend it all. What I did was I imagined what people that had this amount of money were feeling, and I pretended to feel that. I made up a vision board of what I wanted, I visualised what I would feel like when I got it and tried to feel it.

7. Self-love…

Self-love is a hard thing to fake. I would stand in front of the mirror getting ready for work and instead of doing what I ways did (pinch my fat parts and make myself look like I had way more cellulite than I did) I would find the parts that I love physically about myself. Eventually, that moved into what I loved about myself intellectually as well.

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