Positive thinking has become a widely used to term, but what does it mean and how can we put it into action? Positive thinking is how you view an event in your life either positive or negative. Of course we should all be prepared for the not so good times, but how should we handle them or think about them when they do appear?
For some people creating a positive spin on a negative situation can seem natural, and these people tend to be optimistic people. This definitely does not come naturally to all people. It is even more worrying when it doesn’t come naturally to children.
When something bad happens there is more than one way it can be approached or thought about. Throughout my teaching career I have had many parents ask for help over their child’s negative thinking patterns. Read more
When I was little, before the worry dolls came into my life, my emotions were very intense and out of control. I would worry about how I spoke to someone, I would be scared that I’d get caught for something wrong I’d done, usually this was stealing my mum’s chocolate!
During my primary school years I would cry myself to sleep, wondering why so and so didn’t want to be my friend that day or why I’d been left out all week. I vividly remember nights of me crying to mum in my bedroom and saying soothingly, “Why don’t you find some new friends.” Or “Don’t let those girls bother you.”
Then one day, while out shopping, I saw these gorgeous little matchstick dolls. There were 7 of them and they came in a small, colourful drawstring bag that was the perfect size to fit under my pillow. It came with a tiny note, I can’t exactly remember what the note said, but it told me how to use them.
The instructions were along the lines of – Tell your worries to your dolls every night before you go to bed and put them under your pillow. When you wake up in the morning your dolls will have sorted out all of your worries for you.
The first night I have it ago I remember having one of the best sleeps ever! These dolls were magical.
I often mention these dolls to my students and I tell them that they don’t need to have proper worry dolls to help their worries disappear. They can talk to a soft toy or a poster, as long as they are airing out their worries and relinquishing the control over them. Because worries aren’t solved by worrying.
We are reading a beautiful book in class at the moment called the Worry Tree. If you have a daughter who worries a lot, this book is perfect.
Read my post on anxiety for more tips on how to stop worrying.
Resilience can be a difficult skill to teach our kids, it can be a slow and emotional journey seeing them take every knock-back or small rejection to heart. Building resilience does take time and practice. Below are 7 tips that you can do with your child or students to help build resilience in children.
When some children don’t get their own way or think something is ‘totally unfair!’ they immediately come running to a parent or teacher. Sometimes all they need to do is take a deep breath and survey the situation. This helps them calm down and not be so reactive. They might come to the conclusion to let the issue go, or to compromise with the child they are frustrated or annoyed with. Read more
Anxiety is so common in our children. I still remember reading the word anxiety in ‘Dolly’ or ‘Girlfriend’ magazine when I was a tween, but never fully understanding what it meant. Then one day I decided to look it up… I couldn’t believe how well one word described me! I was terrified to go out with new people, worried what they would think of me, I was terrified in the classroom, thinking over and over in my head ‘this is too hard, this is too hard’. I would stress out about not having friends, I would stress out about what I had said to them. I had anxiety!
I see this in so many of my students, way to much worry for someone so small. Of course for them the worry doesn’t seem to last long… or does it?
So what can we do to help this situation? In my classroom there are 5 activities that I do to help anxious children stay calm. Read more